Originally Posted by 93goatfucker04
I dont know. One is a difference in moral views and one is something medical.
Lets try a better analogy. it shard to come up with one. If someone had strange religious views(something very out of societies norm) would it be better that they tell a person up front knowing that the person will probaly turn them away, or lie about who they really are till the person likes them.
It is better relationship wise to be up front with who you are. And in the same way, look for people who are similar. Its just not healthy (or fair to the unknowing person) to start a relationship lying about yourself because you know the person probaly wouldnt like who you really are
There is a difference in lying, and just not broaching the subject until more appropriate.
Just because I live in the south where "everyone" is super religous (not so much anymore but was that way in school) doesnt mean I need to alert every girl I am interested in that I am agnostic or atheist or whatever.
Sure, there comes a time when it needs to be brought up.
sometimes it may even happen organically. Sometimes it may need to be brought up quicker than planned.
Using your analogy of religion in most instances it would be organically, but if the girl was like "Hey lets go on a second date... there is this huge thing at my church tomorrow, you should come" it might be a good time to bring up the fact I dont go to churck
For the TS/TG etc that time would be the moment actual sexual contact is made. I include anything more than a quick peck of a kiss goodnight as that.
A HUGE number of date attempts will end with a phone number if you're lucky and nothing more and likely not even a call back. There is no reason for them to tell that person they met and chatted with at the bar for an hour or two they are ts/tg.
Problem there though is when someone ELSE in the bar already knows, and start shit like in this thread. From just some dancing and chatting there is NO foul made yet IMO. But some punk in the bar already knows and steps in and makes a mockery of it, and it becomes this huge deal because the ts/tg person was 'tricking" someone. They werent. They were just not in the position to tell them yet more than likely.
With that said, I am positive there are some nefarious ones that get off on tricking people. Trying to push boundaries. but for the most part id gather most just want to feel as normal as possible given the circumstances.